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Dreams Persist

7 Apr

Cuddle Arms Spring Bowtie

Today I finally dropped my baby boy off at daycare for his first full day. I meant to do so months ago, but circumstances had other ideas.

But every time I got frustrated with my lack of work time, I’d snuggle my baby in my arms and remember this post I wrote back when my now-four-year-old was the baby in my arms. The gist:

Cuddle your baby while you can. They don’t stay babies long.

The point is, all of my recent publishing progress, logo work, book editing, etc. has been squeezed into nights and weekends. I don’t say this for a pity party. I say this to remind you (and myself) that, as sure as the baby phase is fleeting, the dream that fuels your heart is timeless. Challenges and circumstances may come and go, but don’t worry. Dreams persist.

My dream still persists.

The dream that began with Sue. The dream that began here…

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Banana Cookies

13 Oct

Banana CookiesWho doesn’t remember a loved one through food? The handwritten recipes, the process, the stories—and especially the tastes and smells—tap into corners of our visceral memory quite unlike anything else.

In a study published by the University of Illinois Press in The American Journal of Psychology (Spring 2002), researchers Herz and Schooler rather poetically declared: Continue reading

Nostalgia

17 Oct

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Nostalgia: pleasure and sadness that is caused by remembering something from the past.

Where is your most nostalgic place?

For me, it would definitely be my childhood home. Because before it was my home, it was my dad’s… and his brothers’… and my grandparents’.

My first memory on RR 66 includes a hazy, toddler-height view of my grandfather, who passed away when I was two. Like the depiction of many an adult in a children’s tale, I see him only from the waist down (Muppet Babies, anyone?), unintelligible mutterings hovering over my head. Continue reading

The Missing Guest

1 Jul

SzabaBirthday2You’d think that the hardest time after losing someone would be the anniversary of the person’s death.

Instead, it’s often a day of happiness and dreams fulfilled, a time when you feel the deceased should be there to witness something you know would’ve been so important to them.

For me, it’s remembering my mother-in-law on my daughter’s birthday.

The first year, I expected it, so I was on guard. But last year, it walloped me.

I wrote the following piece from Szaba’s point of view shortly after Sue died. (It ended up inspiring me to write this book.) As I approach Szaba’s third birthday, nothing can explain that annual heartbreak like this letter.

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The Mother I Want to Be

9 May

Szaba_Angela_YellowTulipsIn honor of Mother’s Day, here are five ladies who taught me about the mother I want to be.

Who are your five? Or for the guys, what mom figures most influenced to you?

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9 Secrets to Being Great

15 Apr

Shirley Picture PuzzlesToday I’m remembering a great: a great grandma, mom, wife (of 50+ years), friend, community leader, youth mentor, bowler, shorthandist, cook … just an all-around great woman.

You know that phrase, “They don’t make them like they used to.” That pretty much sums up Shirley.

ShirleyWeddingWe lost her a year ago today, and I’m been feeling a bit melancholy, I’m not going to lie.

But there wasn’t anything about Shirley that was melancholy. Heck, the day she passed, she went out with friends to see a barber shop quartet and have cocktails. She was 91, mind you.

So, I’m doing my best to direct my energy toward the positive things about Shirley—and there are a lot of them to choose from.

Even if you didn’t know her,  here are nine Shirley-inspired ideas for living life to the fullest, from someone who spent nine decades doing just that.

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3 Groovy Videos

21 Sep

In honor of my mom’s birthday today, here are three videos that will put a little groove in your step.

Happy Birthday, Mom!

and vice versa

We Are Family

Get up and shake your groove thing. Just like my mom and her sisters always do to this song.

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