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The Missing Guest

1 Jul

SzabaBirthday2You’d think that the hardest time after losing someone would be the anniversary of the person’s death.

Instead, it’s often a day of happiness and dreams fulfilled, a time when you feel the deceased should be there to witness something you know would’ve been so important to them.

For me, it’s remembering my mother-in-law on my daughter’s birthday.

The first year, I expected it, so I was on guard. But last year, it walloped me.

I wrote the following piece from Szaba’s point of view shortly after Sue died. (It ended up inspiring me to write this book.) As I approach Szaba’s third birthday, nothing can explain that annual heartbreak like this letter.

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Mourning

2 Dec

I’m not going to lie. The one-year anniversary of Sue’s death has wrung my soul out to dry. I’ve watched the clock, wandering through those last hours like the abandoned sets of a movie. I’ve wished. I’ve wondered. I’ve cried.

But I know that Sue wouldn’t want me or any of us to spend our time mourning. She was all about living, and that’s what she’d want us to do.

So, in honor of Sue or whomever it is you’re missing today, let’s commit to doing 10 things in their honor.

All I ask is that, whatever you do, make it fun. Make it joyful. Make it Sue.

“10 Things” Today in Honor of Sue

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