Dia de Los Muertos

I usually do a funny, frivolous post on Fridays, but with Dia de Los Meurtos culminating today, I’m inclined to do something a little different, if that’s alright with you.

As I wrote last year, fall and the holidays have a particularly poignant shade for many of us who grieve.

I use “grieve” in the present tense, for contrary to early thoughts on the subject, there is no finish line in grief, but rather a new appreciation for life with that grief in tow.

Thus I remind you (and myself):

Talk about the loved one you miss, for your sake and your kids‘.
Show your kids it’s okay to feel sad and happy.
And most of all, appreciate moments now, as you’re living them.

“What is a moment?” This video does a startling good job at capturing the idea. (Don’t be dissuaded by the rather depressing screen capture. It’s actually a lovely, joyful piece.)

I started this blog as a way to positively channel my grief. I don’t talk about that much any more. That’s the nature of people and life: We evolve. But loving and losing Sue (and now Shirley) continue to be my guiding compass. As sad as it makes me at times, it’s also making me a better, more fulfilled mom and woman.

If you’re missing someone this fall, what helps you during the holidays? Maybe some of these old posts can help. I wish you peace and purpose in your journey.