Tag Archives: living

10 Things in Honor of Sue

2 Dec

sueszaba_small.jpgThree years ago today, we lost Sue. It hardly seems real when stated so bluntly. And yet there it is. The facts belying a long journey of emotional pitfalls, resilient hopes, and surprisingly strong motivation.

On the first anniversary, I wrote that it “wrung my soul out to dry.” That emotion has mellowed over time, though it remains poignantly poised at the heart of today. And I still “wander through those last hours like the abandoned sets of a movie.” I don’t know when or if there will ever be a year where that’s not the case.

But I do know that Sue wouldn’t want anyone to waste valuable time mourning. Alive. In this moment. Together. That’s the mantra she’d want us to have.

So rather than throwing a pity party, I do the following 10 things every year on this anniversary, in honor of her life, not death.

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Laughter

11 Nov

Pumpkin LaughterWhen was the last time you laughed like this?

Head back, smile wide open, eyes pinched with happiness, not caring who saw you—scratch that—WANTING people to see you and see your joy. Continue reading

Return on Investment

18 Apr

1982CalculatorWhy is it so hard to invest in ourselves?

Is it parental guilt? A relic notion of “modesty”? The preservation instinct of the self employed?

Why, even in situations when the return on investment is quite obvious, does this feel so uncomfortable?

For instance, this weekend there’s a kids’ book conference, and I dilly dallied over whether or not to go. I even reached out to my writers’ circle on Facebook, seeking an impartial thumbs up or down. Their reply:

I bet you’d get a lot out of that … What is your hesitation?

What was my hesitation? The answer came down to three things.

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Taxing Poetic

25 Mar
Photo by Esther Perez

Photo by Esther Perez

What I was prepared for was preparing my taxes.

A pile of paperwork sat close at hand. An empty spreadsheet awaited the figures of another year gone by.

What I wasn’t prepared for was an existential crisis.

It’s no coincidence that Shirley, my incredible grandma-in-law, died nearly a year ago. It was a year after I started this blog in memory of Sue, her daughter. Needless to say, this second blow was all the more crippling from the wounds of the first.

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How to Live to 100

21 Jan
100 years live life

Painting courtesy of Miki, “Queen of Planet Goodaboom,” on Flickr

Did you see the New York Times article about “the island where people forget to die“?

The Greek island of Ikaria is home to one of the largest population of centurions. Perhaps even more interesting is the fact that its elderly remain remarkably sharp and active.

One notable chap, Stamatis Moraitis, was diagnosed with terminal cancer at age 60, at which point he moved back to Ikaria and has since lived a happy, productive life. He’s currently 85.

So, what’s the secret of these death defiers?

Well, there isn’t one, but based on the Ikaria lifestyle, here are 10:

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