Tag Archives: remembering

A Word From Peter Pan’s Wendy

9 Feb
© Peter Pan and Wendy Stained Glass by VanillaKeyblade

© Peter Pan and Wendy Stained Glass by VanillaKeyblade

Occasionally a friend comes to me with a grief story so powerful I ask them if I may share it here with you. Wendy is one such friend, and her story offers a wonderful example of a new kind of memorial… one of celebration and ongoing conversation.

When my mom’s Cousin John fell ill, we kind of knew what was coming. But it all happened so quickly that it was still quite difficult for the family to handle.

Over the past few years, I’d grown close with John, and I’ve been close with his brother Peter for 25 years. You might say he’s the Peter Pan to my Wendy.  Continue reading

Loss and Legacy

27 May

Here are some of the many special people this community is remembering today, along with a little snapshot as to why.

I hope this project inspires you to share your own story of a loved one. Loss does not take away legacy. It simply leaves it in our hands to champion that tale.

I wish you a Memorial Day filled with the stories of a lifetime.

Want to add to this post? All are welcome. Simply post a comment below.

Shirley Drury

(She’s the beauty in the middle.)

Shorthand expert, bowling instructor, and military secretary. Always wore heels—even in her 90s. Her, her maternal grandparents, and all six of her grandparents’ children were married 50+ years.

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Memorial Day Project, Take 2

13 May

Sue Angela Cancer WalkI want to know the stories of that special someone you’ve lost.

Too many times, we’re encouraged not to talk about such things. But those people are still a part of us. And what better time to remember them and their life stories than Memorial Day? Share with me. Share with us.

Last May, I did this Memory Day project, and it was so appreciated, I’m doing it again.

In the comments section below, write the name (first only is fine) and a memory or two you’d like to share. Continue reading

9 Secrets to Being Great

15 Apr

Shirley Picture PuzzlesToday I’m remembering a great: a great grandma, mom, wife (of 50+ years), friend, community leader, youth mentor, bowler, shorthandist, cook … just an all-around great woman.

You know that phrase, “They don’t make them like they used to.” That pretty much sums up Shirley.

ShirleyWeddingWe lost her a year ago today, and I’m been feeling a bit melancholy, I’m not going to lie.

But there wasn’t anything about Shirley that was melancholy. Heck, the day she passed, she went out with friends to see a barber shop quartet and have cocktails. She was 91, mind you.

So, I’m doing my best to direct my energy toward the positive things about Shirley—and there are a lot of them to choose from.

Even if you didn’t know her,  here are nine Shirley-inspired ideas for living life to the fullest, from someone who spent nine decades doing just that.

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Arroz Con Pollo

4 Jun
Jennifer Pasinosky, Angela Hylland, Angela Taylor, kayaking, Lummi island

Jen and I, before embarking on the uncharted waters of motherhood.

As most of you know, since my mother-in-law’s death I’ve been on a mission to find ways to keep the memory of Sue alive for my baby girl. That desire, in turn, sparked a passion to help other families in the same situation.

Unfortunately, I have many close friends mourning the loss of a parent, right at the time when we’re figuring out how to be parents ourselves. The idea that our little ones won’t know those special people—people who would’ve been such integral parts of their lives, our lives—is simply unfathomable.

That’s why I was intrigued when my friend Jen told me about her continued connection to her mother through food, particularly the native Colombian dish, arroz con pollo. I asked her to write about it, so I could share it with all of you. The result is this beautiful guest post.

Thank you, Jen, for your support, understanding, inspiration, and willingness to share. You, like your mother, make this world a better place. I’m so glad I know you, and through you, her.

Without further ado …

FROM JEN:

Nothing brings back memories of my mom better than food. It’s been nine years since she passed away, and I can still taste her arroz con pollo.

As early as I can remember, I loved spending time with my mom in the kitchen.

She taught me how to make patacones, papas choriadas, pan de yuca, arepas, ajiaco, and on one ambitious day, empanadas. We would sing along to Colombian music playing from the family room. Yo me llamo cumbia, yo soy la reina por donde voy… Or of course, to Julio Iglesias.

She would tell funny stories of learning to cook in the early days of her marriage to my dad, an American. Here’s one of my favorites:

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Memorial Day Project

21 May

Let’s do something together for Memorial Day.

Let’s memorialize someone.

Here’s what we’ll do: In the comments section below, just write the name (first only is fine) and a memory or two you’d like to pass on about them. Even just a phrase or sentence is fine, though stories are welcome, too! You can even e-mail me a picture to include, if you’d like: syntaxsorceress @ gmail.com

Then I’ll wrap up all the replies in a special post for Memorial Day—a post written by all of us for our fondly remembered loved ones.

What do you say?

I’ll get us started …

Martha and Philip Groves

Had square-dancing date nights.

Sent a family of seven to Catholic school on a railroad engineer’s salary.

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