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Five Years

2 Dec

Leaves FrameFive years ago today, I said goodbye to my mother-in-law. I made her many promises that day, not the least of which was fulfilling her dream for The Denim JungleContinue reading

10 Things in Honor of Sue

2 Dec

sueszaba_small.jpgThree years ago today, we lost Sue. It hardly seems real when stated so bluntly. And yet there it is. The facts belying a long journey of emotional pitfalls, resilient hopes, and surprisingly strong motivation.

On the first anniversary, I wrote that it “wrung my soul out to dry.” That emotion has mellowed over time, though it remains poignantly poised at the heart of today. And I still “wander through those last hours like the abandoned sets of a movie.” I don’t know when or if there will ever be a year where that’s not the case.

But I do know that Sue wouldn’t want anyone to waste valuable time mourning. Alive. In this moment. Together. That’s the mantra she’d want us to have.

So rather than throwing a pity party, I do the following 10 things every year on this anniversary, in honor of her life, not death.

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Two to Tango

22 Aug

OurWeddingWe had one date in college, and it was a disaster. That was 17 years ago.

After college, Chicago kept putting us in each other’s paths. Eventually, mutual friends had a party, and I decided to give him another chance. Plus, he said he was up for trying tango lessons with me—and he actually followed through on it. Continue reading

9 Years and Counting

24 Aug

Two crazy kids falling in love. January 1, 1999.

Happy anniversary to my husband, without whom I would know, be, have, appreciate, and understand so much less.

Who would’ve thought when we were dancing the night away at Chi Delt, partying in Jay’s presidential suite, or tailgating on top of U-Hal trucks that we’d end up here? Evidently, the Chicago El train did, or it wouldn’t have kept throwing you back on my path (despite my best evasion tactics … sorry about that).

Ryan, in honor of our 9 years of marriage—and 13.5 years together? whoa, that’s crazy—I made you this:

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1-Year Blogiversary

22 Aug

As my Facebook page so kindly keeps reminding me, it’s Sue’s birthday today. Trust me: I know.

Not coincidentally, I started this blog one year ago in her honor.

Lately, I’ve been putting a lot of thought into what I want to do with it going forward—and what you want from it. I wrote lists. I even drew a grid. Despite my marketing expertise, I’m kind of embarrassed to admit this, but … it didn’t help.

As you’ve probably discerned by now, I’m all over the place. I’m not a one-dimensional entity. Neither was Sue. Neither are you. Marketing has led me to believe that’s a problem, but I’m having a problem seeing it as a problem. Is that a problem?

All of us nurture, create, befriend, explore, play, achieve, inspire, remember, share, defy, and follow our bliss, in no particular order. This blog honors all those pursuits (and more) that I shared with Sue … and presumably share with you. It’s a devotion born of grief, awakened by the question that has haunted me in the wake of that grief:

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Mourning

2 Dec

I’m not going to lie. The one-year anniversary of Sue’s death has wrung my soul out to dry. I’ve watched the clock, wandering through those last hours like the abandoned sets of a movie. I’ve wished. I’ve wondered. I’ve cried.

But I know that Sue wouldn’t want me or any of us to spend our time mourning. She was all about living, and that’s what she’d want us to do.

So, in honor of Sue or whomever it is you’re missing today, let’s commit to doing 10 things in their honor.

All I ask is that, whatever you do, make it fun. Make it joyful. Make it Sue.

“10 Things” Today in Honor of Sue

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